Our Home is the foundation for the entire family, to be loved, to love, and to be strengthen and encouraged. Laying a firm foundation doesn’t happen overnight. In my foundation growing up I experienced disappointments and lack of trust. I can’t even remember a time when one of my parents sat down and read to me or prepared me for my future. My siblings and I were busy keeping up with school, cleaning the house, and finding comfort in one another through the break outs of domestic violence. It created scares in all of us that needed to be repaired, however these experiences caused each of us to bring change (with God as our source) in the raising of our own children.
Together with God (The Father to the Fatherless) helped us to build a good foundation in layers, day by day. A homegrown child is nurtured at home by involved parents, who are raised for character and not just achievement, who values faith and family! The goal is to build strength in them so that they can stand firm when they are ridiculed for whatever reason, when they got cut from a team, or when their boy friend or girl friend breaks up with them, feeling like the ground beneath them has been shaken.
What Is a Homegrown child? Organic parenting and the home court advantage begin by looking forward. A hands on approach from toddler to adolescence, and even staying in close contact when they move away to college or take a job. Preparing them for life, from the ground up. I’m reminded of that song “Stand by Me” by Ben E. King, that moves all of us when we hear it….I guess what I’m trying to say is that “it takes our presence in our children’s lives”, together with God’s principles and resources. Walking it out with them on a daily bases, teaching by example through love, patience, and a open heart when mistakes are made.
Years from now, when your son or daughter heads off to college or moves into their first apartment and you bid him or her farewell with teary eyes and a hopeful heart, what do you want your child to be able to handle? What kind of foundation would you like him or her to have? Can they still come to us with their experiences in life without us freaking out on them?
Remember a homegrown child isn’t known by what he does as much as by what he is. That’s an important distinction that can be developed only through time and parental involvement. I would pray and still do for God’s wisdom and ability, His Super on my natural to bring forth the best in my son through “His” grace and understanding. It’s never to late to get involved…after all God is our “Restoration!” Be Brave!!